D is something I never wanted, and I'm afraid I may have jumped the gun and acted on emotions after all the crap that happened Thursday night with the false accusations. On one hand, I'm tired of dealing with the drama. W right now is someone I do not want to be with. On the other hand, sometimes I think this is something she might pull through.
I can't imagine she is going to snap out of this. There seems to be a pattern of drug abuse and maybe mental illness there, and she's not addressing it and has no desire to address it. Obviously the purpose of these forums is to help people bust their divorces, but yours is one of very, very few cases I've encountered in my time here where it seems like D is the best and maybe only way to protect yourself. Maybe she'll hit rock bottom in the future and get her act together, and if she does you can always reconcile then and maybe even get remarried. But until then I think you're doing what is best for you and the kids as far as keeping her at arm's length and refusing to let her into the house and give her money and such.
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Several times throughout all of this, she has made comments that she wants to work on things, yet her actions are the complete opposite.
WAS's will often dangle the carrot of hope out there in order to blackmail the LBS into giving them something they want. I wouldn't interpret that as her genuinely being interested in reconciling.
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Part of me thinks she's just playing nice and buying time to get her ducks in a row and find a lawyer.
You think she's playing nice right now? Ummmm.....
