Thank you David, very interesting food for thought, weighing up validating vs cake-eating vs successful detachment. Your point of view and honesty has really helped me see my sitch for what it is.
LBH 47 WW 47, M 15 T 18 D 11 S 14 BD, I moved out (duped) Jan 18 3 yr EA with ex-H discovered: Feb 18 I moved back in: Aug 18 (against her wishes) ...No R No M/C, continued limbo, dropping the rope!
