It sounds to me like her boyfriend dumped her so she has to return to her husband so she can be the bird in his cage. She's playing you. I hate that sh*t.
This is definitely a possibility, but I think it had more to do with me telling her I didn't want to divorce the day before. She wants out and I'm not making that easy for her. She thinks I am not respecting her decision, and that I am being controlling. Maybe I could ask her what happiness looks like to her, and what steps she needs to take to get there. I think if she is too depressed to file for divorce on her own, she is not ready to divorce. It is her choice to make though.
I've been wondering if it would be appropriate for me to call her therapist (our former marriage counselor), or one of her best friends to ask them to call her this morning. I have a strong urge to do that, but I think that would be an emotional response out of my own fear and discomfort in seeing W like this, so I haven't contacted either of them. My other fear is that W would think I am trying to exert control over the few safe relationships she has right now. If I am to prioritize detachment, I think I should not contact anyone. I feel scared doing that though.
Me:30 W:31 S:4 M:7 T:12 PA: 5/6/18 - ? W moved out 7/18
