Right now she doesn't have to think about anything bc you are very available. ite great that you have recognized where you have went wrong. You can still capitalize on both issues. Detaching doesn't necessarily mean being rude. It feels that way bc you want so much to be with her, but in reality it's not.
Think of it this way:
"Hey, can you come over and __________"
"Ahhhhh man, I can't right now I have to _________"
