The bomb woke me up, but she won't talk

[Davide]

I went back once and mowed the grass before I started DBing. I wouldnt do it again. I wont do anything about the house until I move back in. I wouldnt do gardening if I were you. She removed you from the house. It is her responsibility now.

I dunno about family outings. I would ask someone with kids in this situation. My thought is no, I would want my time with the kids to be MY time with the kids. But, what do I know?

My W would never ask to hangout. She is asserting her independence. She feels like she needs to break free of me as much as I need to break free of her. If she did...woah... I think the correct answer would be to say no, that it would be cake-eating - a chance for her to enjoy the benefits of the R (hanging out, not being lonely, chatting) without making any committment to restoring the R. That said, I would be hard pressed to say no, because I would want to listen to her and validate her. It would definitely set back my detachment a ton - even thinking about it is hard. I am almost glad that it isnt a real option.