I signed the dissolution papers and dropped off at my wife doorstep on 5/1 Afternoon. Wife called twice that evening (i didnt pick up) and even texted me asking to casually speak with me. I asked what is it was regarding? She said she wanted to talk to me casually and if i am uninterested thats totally fine and said take care. I said everytime her casual talks have a way of rising my Blood pressure. And insisted she specify the subject of conversation , i would later choose to talk to her. I said i am done playing with her games as well. She didnt respond.
Are you hoping to reconcile at some point? If so, then if she asks to talk then do talk to her. The timing is interesting that she wants to have this talk right after you signed the papers, perhaps she's getting cold feet about the dissolution. Just remember DB'ing is not being cold and indifferent, it's about LOVINGLY detaching. That means giving her time and space, but if she reaches out to you then it's fine to talk to her.
If you do have a talk with her just listen and validate. Let her do the talking.
Originally Posted By: Nutcrac
I signed my paperwork a long time ago. I don't think Wife still hasn't submitted the papers to lawyer. I have no idea whats going on either. I have no contact with her as well. Any suggestions?
Ask her if she still plans on going through with it. When we say "don't pursue" we don't mean never talk to them ever, we just mean don't ask them on dates, don't make frequent phone calls, don't constantly text them.
