Detaching is so hard, I have just started trying. I've bought an audio book, co-dependent no more and some spiritual learning I am doing is resulting in small detachments.
Loving being with my kids and wanting to spend time with them as well as family time is making it hard. She knows 100% I want to be with all three of them as much as possible, and back in my family home. I am pretty much the opposite of NC, although I can proudly say I haven't initiated contact for 10 weeks now. She initiates it and asks me to either help with the kids or see the kids, so I see them pretty much every day.
I am focused on my changes, I know I need to GAL and understand that this is not giving up on my marriage, but GAL does feel like giving up in a way and will definitely result in me seeing my kids less.
Do you think I should be saying no more often when she asks me to go to my house to see the kids? It seems to soon to go dark, NC and fully implement the LRT.
LBH 47 WW 47, M 15 T 18 D 11 S 14 BD, I moved out (duped) Jan 18 3 yr EA with ex-H discovered: Feb 18 I moved back in: Aug 18 (against her wishes) ...No R No M/C, continued limbo, dropping the rope!
