I actually think I am the primary but we restricted the kids to the town we live in and the school district. If one of us moves then we essentially give up our rights.
I think we did the same thing now that you mention it. My ex bought a house about 5 minutes away so it was never much of an issue!
Originally Posted By: STH17
Told W I didn't want a divorce, she would have to file herself, I couldn't stop her, etc. Now she is saying I am abusing her by holding her hostage in our marriage, by not streamlining the divorce with her.
Steve is exactly right, you stood up for yourself, she feels her control over you slipping away and her reaction was very, very predictable. You handled the conversation great, don't worry about her reaction. Even though she'll pout and rant about it, inside there's a bloom of respect for you that's starting to sprout.
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I tried to tell her that as strongly as she wanted a divorce, I did not. That she could choose to file, but I am allowed to make my own choice.
Damned straight!
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She just doesn't understand that and thinks I am being stubborn and controlling. And me being calm gets me accused of being emotionless and robotic.
She's trying to manipulate you and guilt you. You didn't fall for it, nicely done.
