Bluesun, how do you do it? Do you have a thread here on this board that we can read?
Mum2Three, it's nice to think we could find the fruit laden trees. Having worked in war zones for most of my career I'm acutely aware that many never find such a place in this lifetime, but I think my focus is on doing the right thing, strengthening my faith, and purifying myself may offer the most direct path to a better place.
Ginger, I'm not sure what else to call him. Walkaway husband? Or 'the man who left?" I'm not sure but I'll try to make less references to him. Aside from writing here on this forum I've diversified my focus on my daughter, career, friends, activities, etc.. and try to limit the time I spend mourning this man but the pain is still there.
Steve, wow I wish to hear the full Kayla story sometime. You know there is another man in my life but I can't write about it here. I would never have an affair but it's an extraordinarily complicated and unprecedented situation that left even my therapist speechless. I wish there was a more private place to get advice about that. My friends who know are flabbergasted and are of no help. So I know my husband isn't the only man in this world. The void and loneliness is so hard to fill though. Many times I'd do anything to pick up the phone and call my husband but nowadays I call other people or no one at all. It's just that with a child it's no longer as easy as falling in love with someone and starting over. The child comes first and currently I have nothing to offer anyone else so I have to accept being alone. I had one long-term relationship prior to meeting my husband but prior to getting married I don't think marriage was really a priority in my 20's. I was too busy with school and career to think much about that. It all just changed when I met my husband.
All, I have to work on being a more positive person. That's one of the hardest things for me....I don't know about all of you. Many of you sound resilient and you're positive about your lives and futures after your marriages fell apart. I hope to figure out how to be that way too.
