Husband gone for second time - 4

[mum2three]

Hi Nicole,

I have tried to catch up on your situation. It was so generous of you to reply to my first post when you have so much else on your plate at the moment, thank you! It meant such a lot.

You are so clearly an couragous, compassionate and articulate woman. I think none of us want you, or your daughter, to have any more unhappiness.

I dont want to trivialise your situation but I am reminded of a story by Anthony de Mello.
Each day a bird would shelter in the withered branches of a tree that stood in the middle of vast deserted plane. One day a whirlwind uprooted the tree, forcing the poor bird to fly a hundred miles in search of shelter, till it finally came to a forest of fruit laden trees and he concluded: If the withered tree had survived, nothing would have induced the bird to give up its security and fly.

I have no idea in this story if you or your husband are the bird but I have a strong feeling that you and your daughter will find fruit laden trees either with or without him!

(PS: I hope for you that it will be with a fully aware, committed, intimate version of the version of him that you fell in love with, as you sound so genuine in your commitment to him)