I'm considering going almost completely NC actually. One of the things that are making me think is this quote from one of Sandi2's posts:
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The LBH should stop being her errand boy, babysitter, cook and housekeeper, etc., trying to "help" lighten her burden, thinking he is doing 180's that are working. Hey, those actions may be 180's from his norm, but they are not the type of 180's that are effective with a wayward! This is another major difference in a WAW and wayward wife. Those acts of kindness, let's say, might be appreciated by a WAW who is not involved in wayward activity or has a wayward heart. Not so, with a wayward! I hope to get that message across about effective 180's from the betrayed H.
Lately, I've been keeping our son every other weekend (unless we have to shuffle it around for some reason).
He's with me now. Next weekend, she's taking him out of town for the weekend. The next weekend (mine), her dad is going to take him (he set that up himself), but then the following weekend she wants to switch it back so that I have him again.
Her mother helped her get her new apartment, and likely a new car this week.
They keep enabling her to have this life...without thinking about whether it's right for our son or not.
I'm really debating telling her that I will ONLY keep him while she works on the weekends...no other time.
I hate doing that. I love my son. But something needs to change, and I'm not okay with enabling her to keep her multiple OM and randos having access.
This is the hardest decision I've had to make, and I would appreciate any advice I can get. Probably going to have this talk with her tonight.