My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance

[joejoe1]

Ovr,

I didn't even realized I Bolden that. But maybe its a sign to you. It means that the WS most of the time choose a person that does not equal up to thier spouse. They choose a person that's given them 20% not realizing they are losing 80%. The only way for them to realize the difference in the percentage is for them to lose that 80 or see themselves losing the 80.

In order for that to happen the LBS has to detach with love. That's what becoming a person only a fool would leave is all about. Showing them that 80 percent leaving.

You have to stop putting all your attention on her and work on you. Show her what a great man you are, not out of revenge but out of you learning what you have done wrong and now you are fixing those faults in yourself.

Keep up the hard work. Don't do things to try and fix, show, or get back at your W. She's on her on journey, and time, karma, and reality will do it's job. And all three of those items, need you to be out of the way for them to do what they need to do.

Look up the three levels of love.

Eros love - known as "erotic love". It is based on strong feelings toward another. It usually occurs in the first stages of a man-woman "romantic" relationship.

Philos love - a love based on friendship between two people.

Agape - unconditional love

The third and highest type of love is "agape", or unconditional love.

Agape love is above philos love and eros love. It is a love that is totally selfless, where a person gives out love to another person even if this act does not benefit her/him in any way. Whether the love given is returned or not, the person continues to love (even without any self-benefit).

A person in an A, is in Eros love. Eros love never last. Eros love is selfish type of love. Agape is the love you will give your S. That love is hard to replicate. It take years to form.

You are doing good.