Gotdie #19: patience, trust...and hope

[Gordie]

Journaling



W called me yesterday to just chat

Things were fine and she was asking my advice about something

Not sure why but conversation definitely went off track

She started attacking me as if i was questioning her judgment which i was not

My old self would apologize ot counter attack

This time I just listened

She exhaused her complaint and i offered no apology

We then went on to a different topic and things were fine

So i can only control me

W is feeling safer expressing and venting her negative feelings

I think my only role is to listen and validate

I do not need to apologize for everything

I do not need to avoid the conflict

I just need to be present and listen

I do not need to defend myself or counter attack