Question, how do I go about distancing when there is a child involved?

I try to talk only about our son or house issues, etc and I never ask about him. Is this how the distancing works? Im reading the books and forums but I haven't seen anything on what to do where children are involved.


Together for 13 years, married for 8.
H is 46
I'm 40
S is 6
Bombdrop in April 2018
Still in limbo as of 2019