Affair, no feelings...is there hope? IV

[SteveLW]

sandi is the expert but i do think a period of limbo is usually necessary. As is often said, you didn't get to this point overnight and it won't get better overnight either. I was very anti limbo, even saying that it would be better to have your spouse drop the bomb and leave and file. But then anther poster pointed out that limbo is the gift of time.

So now I view limbo is that period of change from the state of heading toward D and moving into a new MR. Limbo is difficult but almost necessary. Especially considering that our Ws, whether we like it or not, will go through withdrawal from OM. Also difficult to watch, but also necessary.