JujuB, what you say is true although it's hard at this stage to see my husband leaving as a gift. I'm starting over right at the time when life is finally supposed to be stable. I'm alone with a child who doesn't deserve to be abandoned by her father. It's hard to see it as a gift. My health has been really bad and I worry a lot about what will happen to my daughter if anything happens to me. As a realist I'd much prefer to stay in an unhappy but functional marriage than to live like this but I have no choice. My husband chose to leave and cheat.
Vanilla, Bluwave, Maika, and Jim, I'll respond to you all tomorrow I hope!
