Steve85 - in response to your message from 5/10 - yes I have faith-based principles as well although sometimes I'm more on the forgiveness side and other times I'm on the justice side. I'm open to forgiving my husband someday if he's truly sorry but other times I wish there could be more justice on our planet for those who abandon their families for illegitimate relationships with other people.
Amazona and Caz - thanks so much. Caz, how are you doing? It would be nice if you could post an update.
AnotherStander, it's good to know your interpretation matches my own.
KML - there's no sign my husband will come back. Bear in mind this is the second time he left so I learned from my mistakes the first time he returned, so it would be a long, long process if he wanted to try again this time.
Ginger - my husband said that statement in a fit of rage on the day he wanted to get divorced. He's never been such a monster before in the eleven years I've known him. He was unrecognizable that day. I just don't know. It's not that I forgive him or don't forgive him but I know that statement isn't true because my husband has made references of the opposite nature about our daughter perhaps 1,000 or more times such as "she's the only thing good in my life; I love her more than anything; I can't live one day without her...." He's recently started acting normal again and saying how great our daughter is, how much he misses her, and how she's the best thing in his life. I do wish to confront him about his bad statement someday, no matter what happens, and ask for a sincere apology because it's so traumatizing to remember he said that.
Steve85, I'll get to the sociopath part soon.
Maika, my husband has failed as a husband and father. I let him go in the sense that I moved and started my own life and I no longer call him or expect him to return. On the other hand, he's still our daughter's father whether I want that or not. She deserves someone who will do anything for her but what she has is my husband. What can I do if he's not a great father? I can't cut-off his contact with her and I can't bring him back or change him. I just don't know.
