Affair, no feelings...is there hope? IV

[sandi2]

Sorry it didn't end the way you had hoped. She may have been in contact with the OM. The last time you had talked to her over the phone, she seemed pretty desperate to hold on to you. Didn't you get that impression when she was telling you she loved you and needed you? Now she comes home and can't be willing to at least try? That sounds suspicious to me.

I didn't except her to jump with joy. I figured she would throw up the "no attraction" thing. But something seems a bit "off". It could be that she is going through withdrawals of OM/A. When a WW is going through withdrawals, she doesn't feel much anything else but depression.

Did she apology for the betrayal, the scretiveness, etc? Did she agree to be transparent?

I don't know if I buy the idea about why she doesn't want to share the bed. I suspect she's still texting OM. Even after being caught, the urge will pull at her to contact him b/c she is addicted.

I hope you told her you would not accept a "friendship" in place of the MR. From her actions, she is trying to stay in the same in-house separation status.

Did you agree with her about the co-dependent statement? Would she consider MC for co-dependent issues?

Did expound on knowing she was a bully?

Okay, well, I hope you will be able to rest and get a good night's sleep. Tomorrow is a new day.