Is there hope?

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They find ways to spend money

MY XH was gambling and he was never a gambler before and always OK
with money b4 crises
They change into different people

Its tricky living with the MLCer and difficult and is it best for the kids?
IDK but some others who actually have lived with the MLCer for long periods of time may chime in
They say reconciliation is better if spouse lives home
but many will stay home until the next best option comes along-
Try to focus on the kids, get some therapy, read, take care of yourself
If she Is in MLCs it gets trickier as time goes on and it last for a long time
2-7 years
not your fault nothing you did or can do to change it-

Hang in there