RR thanks for your response - with all due respects -i'm having trouble on how this could be controlling. I would welcome anybody elses take on this question ..
LV, I going to respond because I believe it is the right thing to do. I know you want to get insight from someone that has had a state of mind like your W. As steve said, it may be right, it may be wrong. There is no accurate vision into the mind of your W right now. This is also Controlling. It is. You can not control this thread. You can't control your W. You can try, but what is the point?
Detach, and I mean this in the kindest way. Don't let Ws actions affect your state. Not now. If she is doing crazy, out of caricature stuff, she is being a typical WW stuff. I sent you a link weeks ago, that sandi wrote about the mind of the WW/WAW. That sums it up. You know what you need to do. Detach. Let her do her thing. TRY not to judge each and every bad choice. I know it's hard. It's your job right now. If she wants to damage her R with her son, it's beyond your control. Only God knows if she will be able to restore it. Not you LW.
Think about this. Even if one of these wonderful ex-WWs were to say, lw, here is the insight that will unlock the key to the mystery of your Ws current thoughts. What are you going to do with that? It shouldn't affect your actions. It may or may not be accurate. All they have is your side of the story and may or may not have a real accurate read on any given sitch. Any attempt to interrupt these action is controlling. It is. Let W be W and you be LW.
Yes, I know it [censored].
I believe you will one day see my point. I hope sooner than later. Peace brother. Let go, let God.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
