The thing we don't talk about as much is if that person has also soul-searched, and really changed, and is actually worthy of our love and forgiveness. They not only have to be accountable for the destruction they have caused, and remorseful for the way they have hurt their S and kids, but they have to commit to changing themselves. Every day.
This is the best and most accurate thing I've read here in a while. There is no back to the status quo or how things were. It's just impossible and if there isn't a serious commitment to change by the WW/WH/WAW, and a clear demonstration of it, it's not worth it. At all.
