Affair, no feelings...is there hope? IV

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Hi 44!

I read your comment about rereading my post and was very confused, I didn't remember writing a post recently to you about taking your spouse back too soon. I started going through your threads and couldn't find it, and then it hit me that you might be referring to a thread I wrote a while back to the general DB community. So let me start by sharing that it cheered me up to know that something I contributed was of value. I only wish I could take more burden off of you.

Then I realized I hadn't actually posted on your thread before. I haven't been posting as much lately. But in actuality I have been following your sitch very closely. Maybe because you have Sandi and Artista posting to you and I always like to read their posts. But also because you have a lot in common with me in the sense of some NGS tendencies, a deliberate and analytical approach, and a deep love for your WW and desire to save your marriage. Maybe this isn't so rare, non-analytical people may not find their way to forums, nor those who don't want to save their Ms, and I think NGS is a darn epidemic especially in these crisis. But still, there's more than that, I just feel like I get where you're coming from.

So I wanted to post and let you know that I'm following and rooting for you and am proud with the work you've done and the path you're on. You've got a good head on your shoulders and some of the best in the businesses giving you guidance and support. Keep fighting the good fight and we're all in your corner!

Hey Zues!

Yes, I was in fact referring to the post you wrote for the community. I didn't check the date to see how long it's been since you wrote it, but it is linked somewhere (maybe in the resource thread?). It was so helpful! That post, along with Sandi's second LBH thread, is like the definitive guide on how to reconcile the "right" way. I'm glad you were cheered up to directly see someone getting value

Thanks so much for your touching words. It means a lot to know there are people following and rooting for me. It definitely sounds like we are very similar and you "get it" (and I agree, NGS is an epidemic!). Your encouragement is so appreciated. I hope one day I can give back the same way you have.