WW in MLC affair and I need advice..

[sandi2]

I decided that Sunday id plan the meals for the week and let my girls pick which meals they wanted to have while they were with me (Determined by my W to be Saturday thru Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday with her,etc

Wait, are you saying she will have the girls only two days out of the week? Wednesday & Thrusady.....sounds about right. Leaves long weekends opened for her. Well, she'll change it around a dozen times b/c nothing is going to work well for her.

WW says "so glad I hurried the girls back and all your doing is mowing, I could have spent more time with them"

I realize the nice guy in you is in the habit of giving her explanations or accountability for everything you do, but all that changes now. Yoir time and what you do when the girls are there, is none of her business. She wanted to have free weekends, and several holidays fall on Sunday......guess she didn't consider that into her plans. Anyway, you were kind enough to let her have the kids awhile on Mother's Day......then she grips at you b/c you had been mowing? You gave her way too much explanation. Break yourself from this habit, b/c she has fired you, remember? You owe her no explanations.......especially detailed ones.

Instead I said "I don't know what to tell you" This upset her as sshe started to talk and said never mind. I spoke up and said please don't start explaining something and cut it short with nevermind. She continued on by saying she was looking for some help and didn't know what to do. I asked her if she had comforted my D5 and tried talking with her. She hadn't but said she'd try. I viewed this as my W is unable to appease her own child and WW actions are causing W more grief than she had planned oon. I got to talk with both my Daughters at bed time and got D5 to calm down a bit. Later on I got a text from WW saying everything was better,she was just dealing with three emotional girls

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I told you this would happen. She can't even get through the first night with them, without calling you to rescue her. Of course it hard on D5. I saw my GD5 go through the same thing, and it will tear your heart out.

Is now the right time to tell the w her stuff is in the garage and to come get it? Deliver the cat to her? Or would it be best to hold off a little bit?

Sounds like unnecessary work, moving the dresser and things into the garage and then calling her. I would ask her when she was going to get the rest of her things, and if she just brushes it off...then move it to the garage and not say anymore about it. The cat, however, is another story. I mean, it's not like she has to build an outdoor pen for it. Next time she comes by the house, hand her the cat and tell her to take it home with her.