Newbie In Need Of Guidance #3

[rminer]

My W and I went to dinner for our anniversary last Saturday as we planned and it seemed a bit different than the last two times. At times and seemed awkward and forced, at times it seemed natural.

She seemed happy to be there so I don't think that was the issue. She even posted about it on Facebook while we were there when she hasn't done in the past. I don't really know how to explain what I mean, it was just a feeling I got.


Overall the evening did go well, but it did get little tense when she brought up an outing for S8 coming up in a few weeks. It is an all day / overnight event, but it falls on the same day as a wedding we have to attend. She wants to drop S8 off at the event and have me go after the reception to spend the night.


I told her I didn't think that was a good idea because S8 would not want to be there all day without me. She stated that he wouldn't be alone and would be fine. After beating around the bush for a few minutes I finally told her that S8 does not want to go because he would have to spend all day with the OM and that he really doesn't like him.

She denied it of course, so I gave her some examples of how S8 has acted around the OM and how he has flat-out ignored him at times. I also told her that S8 has told me he wants to quit because of the OM. My W at that point said that he was not going to quit, and I agreed, but I did suggest that it would be wise to change locations for S8. She of course hates this idea. My W then told me how S8 always sad how much he liked the OM last year and how well they got along at recent event I did not attend. I said that may be true but, he does not like him now and the day after that event he complained to me about the OM again.

We didn't argue about it, we just had a discussion. With as defensive as she became, it could have ruined the evening but it didn't. My demeanor was matter of fact, firm and I held my ground.


The following day there didn't seem to be any ill effects from the night before. In fact since then I have seen more changes in my W that are confusing me even more than ever.

In the interest of not making this another Marathon post, I will post about it tomorrow.