"Make her do all the work" sounds like another thing I could screw up if I'm not careful. I don't think I should avoid negotiating finances, housing, and custody.
This would depend on the R between you and your W. My W and I hired a L to do all the paperwork but she did not represent either one of us. When my EW contacted me and told me she wanted to move forward with D we arranged a time to meet and we discussed everything from the kids, to the house, child support and our finances. It cost us about $800 to get divorced.
In the end I kept the house, we have 50/50 joint custody with the kids with no parent having any more or less rights than the other. All of our finances assets/liabilities were split in 1/2 50/50 and I am paying child support based on our wage difference. I live in a state where someone always pays child support unless their is not a wage discrepancy.
I have a buddy that is a judge and he advised me that the more you can agree on the better. There is no need to mediate on things you already agree on and if you can keep the A's out of it your better off.
Again every sitch is different and only you know what your comfortable with but don't think that you automatically have to L up. Get advice sure, make sure you are educated definitely but don't think you have to pony up.
