Hello, I'm new here. :)

[AnotherStander]

JLH, quit making new threads. It's very confusing for us to follow when people constantly make new threads as we can't go back and read up on your sitch. You're not supposed to make a new thread until your original one hits 100 posts, then you make a new one and link to the old one so we can go back and read. Hopefully Cadet will come along and combine your 3 threads into one.

I told him that I feel like hes giving some mixed signals since he looked like a beaten dog and sad when he leaves the house a lot of the time and he told me that he still wants to go through with the D and that its "just a sad time".

Quit asking him. Asking is pressure, and he doesn't want any pressure right now. The more you ask the more resolute he will become that D is the answer. But if you remove the pressure he may very well not push for it anymore.

He has so many issues under his belt like death of his brother, he's basically his family's main caregiver, work,money issues, etc. I told him at my therapy session, the therapist says that she is concerned for him as well and asked me if he would sit in on a session with me. I told her I'd ask him and he said he would go for my issues, not his.

You can't fix him. Not a good idea to bring him into your counseling session.

I told him I think we need a better schedule where he comes around less often because I can't handle him coming around every night to see our son, staying for 45 minutes and then leaving.

I think that's completely reasonable. Come up with a schedule you can live with, document it and send it to him.

I did ask him via text just now if he took his favorite wedding pic with him when he left the house to go to his apartment.

Why? Quit asking him about stuff like that, I think you are just looking for reasons to contact him. Leave him alone, he needs time and space more than anything right now.