"Make her do all the work" sounds like another thing I could screw up if I'm not careful. I don't think I should avoid negotiating finances, housing, and custody. Does "make her do all the work" mean impeding the progress of the divorce by taking a long time to sign papers or something like that? Making her do the financial discovery process on her own? If I do that am I just forcing her to get a lawyer, and thereby forcing myself to get one too? I'm meeting for a consultation with one today but I don't really want to litigate.
Do you want a D? If not then why would you willing participate in the D? mtb said it well. Let me put it to you this way, when it comes to the D don't do anything that is not required by law or court ordered.
And yes, consult a lawyer. Let him know what your stance is (not wanting D, not wanting to do anything to help with the D).
I know in our modern "me me me" society this scares people. "She's going to take me to the cleaners!" In reality, most divorce courts are pretty fair to both parties.
But make her do the work. If she needs a document don't supply it for her, make her get it. "We need last year's tax return for the D, can you send it to my lawyer?" "No, I can't, I am really busy, but you can get a copy from -tell her where-."
See, you didn't hinder it but you didn't do the work. If she is serious about it she will track the document down herself.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
