Letting Go (Saying ILY Pt 4)

[mtb1981]

I get that man. My S3 has been really tough lately, very easily upset and obstinate. Whenever he gets upset he cries for "MAAAAMAAA" and t breaks my heart, i dont know if he just wants consolement from Mommy, or if he isnt actually seeing her enough or getting enough attention and love from her. I have no clue what his life is like when im not around it it awful.

That has to $uck. I would have a hard time dealing with not knowing what kind of situation my kids were in if they weren't around. Mine are with me ALL the time. The longest amount of time they have spent with their mom in the past 4 months was 5 hours on Mother's Day. Otherwise she sees them in passing for 5-15 minutes once or twice a week if that. That's why I'm having such a hard time with it. I know they're too young to understand and that they miss her, but in my mind, I'm like,"I'm the only one that's been here for you lately! She doesn't want to have anything to do with you! Why do you want to live with her, when I've been the one that has taken care of you this whole time?" I know they miss her a lot and I wish she would spend more time with them, but it hurts nonetheless...

I'm also afraid that I'm going to become the "mean" parent. When they are with me, they have to follow rules, pick up after themselves, eat normal dinners, take baths & brush their teeth. All normal things that kids should do to learn to be normal, functioning adults. When they are with her, I'm afraid it's going to be all ice cream and fun time with no responsibility. I mean, what kid between the ages of 3 and 9 wouldn't choose candy for dinner in front of the TV instead of eating a well balanced meal at a table before having to bathe and brush their teeth?...