Can I really do this #2

[Dtrmned]

Steve,
I am not attempting in any way to make it easy on her. When she filed (then withdrew a week later) in February, she retained an attorney. She then found out how much money the attorney charged just to file for her and then to withdraw so she got a HUGE realization on the cost involved in this. We don't have many assets left after the financial disaster, but what we do have left will definitely be exhausted by both of us if we use attorneys.

On my side, I have to be smart for myself and my children. My dream is to reconcile, retain our family and work on our marriage in a 2.0 scenario. Never going to back to where we were but moving forward to a better more fulfilling MR for both of us.

My W hates confrontations so her turning it over to an attorney would be actually easier for her so having her confront it first personally, to me makes sense. She has stated and believes that at some point something will happen and that I will draw my line and it will be turned over to attorneys. She has seen me in action for over 20 years and knows that when I do get to that point, that I will make that decision. My response to her was--Well, don't let it get there.

I have consulted with a few attorneys and will use one as well to go through everything on my side to be sure I am as protected as I can be throughout. I will not do this for her. Right now just letting her go through the motions on the checklist to let her realize how bad this truly is.

Financial part aside (and this is going to be a HUGE shocker for her) just the 2x4 that she will be without her children half the time, having to schedule communications, holiday schedules, vacations, schools, restrictions on the location you can live due to schools, etc. I am hopeful will be eye opening.