Been thinking on this a bit so let me play devils advocate What if the band is a trigger for ExW of OR She hasnt gone to see them in 4 years after all What if she has moved on from them and is into something new you hate Peoples likes really change in 4 years What if she thinks they are childish now Are you still interested in her even if she cant be part of your band thing The band should be your thing not your couple thing
My advice is dont ask her again and go with a male friend and post a lot of pictures of you just having fun being alive
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18