Been thinking on this a bit so let me play devils advocate
What if the band is a trigger for ExW of OR
She hasnt gone to see them in 4 years after all
What if she has moved on from them and is into something new you hate
Peoples likes really change in 4 years
What if she thinks they are childish now
Are you still interested in her even if she cant be part of your band thing
The band should be your thing not your couple thing

My advice is dont ask her again and go with a male friend and post a lot of pictures of you just having fun being alive


M 40 W 34
Together 7 Married 2
No Kids
BD 1/18 need space
Moved out 2/18
ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18
W filed for D 6/18
D final 10/18