MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART VII

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I agree with Blu and V. What else are these than mindgames? Is Sue the best option to go with you, because she is an attractive girl so you can show it in FB or because she is the person you have most fun in this concert? The first is a mindgame, the second is not. Do you have a lot of pictures from events like this with other females as well or would you post them just to show it, with low amount of pictures prior? In the first case it would be appropriate, in the second one you would be pathetic. The sole fact that you planned this is rather pathetic. The fact is that it does not matter who you go into the concert with, male or female. Which brings me to my next point.

Being needy is not asking a person out multiple times. Being needy is not showing interest in someone who you find attractive. Being needy is that you ATTACH an EXPECTATION to it and convey that message via your actions, subtle cues or direct messages. You plan it beforehand and then subconsciously get hurt if the person denies you. When you attach no end result to the action, you cannot be needy.

Also, if Sue is an attractive girl that you find fun company and she probably is single, would you be open to dating her? Have you considered her feelings, is she just really on friend basis or possibly attracted to you?

You have lived 4 years without your WAW and to me it seems you have become a bit too attached again. Stop controlling what happens and live your life. I can see only three outcomes of acting like you have written. Either she sees you with another girl and makes too quick decisions related to you, thus acts from a need rather than a want. Or she sees right through this and finds it pathetic. Or she sees you with another girl and decides you probably were not really interested. I do not see an outcome where she finds you more attractive and wants to genuinely recon. Now, you can go with Sue of course but go because you want to, not because you want to rub it in your XWs face.

As always, this is my opinion.