Zodiac Sign Point to... (WAW)

[Salazar]

Short version:

I have not yet added the details of what happened between May 6 and today (will add later), but W just sent a message that I would like some feedback on / critique of my reply.

W: I want to move on (via text message).

Me: [I have not replied yet, this is what I am considering]. That is tough to hear, but I respect your decision.

Thoughts on the above reply? A big issue in our relationship has been me undermining her confidence (unconsciously) and possibly pursuing since BD.


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Long version plus more context.

This past Sunday we saw each other in person (planned). After our business plans, I asked if she wanted to go on an adventure (jeep ride). We did this the previous weekend at her suggestion and had a lot of fun. She said no when I asked and give some reasons why she didn't want to go. I persisted and we went back and forth a few times and she ultimately said she tried to give a nice answer, but she had to resort to being mean. She left and and about 30 minutes later she texted me:

W: "I feel like I say no to things and you do them or push me to do them anyways".

Me: Ok, I didn't realize that you felt that way. Thank you for helping me understand".

A few hours later I went over to her house to get my bag (I spent the night their previously [on her couch]). I left to drive home and she texted me to say, "I put some papers in the lining of the suitcase for you".

I read the papers when I got home. Since BD she has been archiving things that she reads that resonate with her. She printed out all 15 pages or so. Examples of things are, "The brain treats rejection like physical pain", the only thing you've lost when you get rejected is a man who doesn't want to be with you", "Don't push me away and then wonder where I went".

If I had to categorize all of the messages, I would say there were 4 main groups:

• Feeling rejected
• Accepting that it was time to move on even if painful
• Tips on how to have a good marriage
• Things related to her zodiac sign (which apparently this year says that it is time to remove the things that cause you pain this year and start
  over).

I read over them many times, but did not comment on them until today. Our correspondence has been very limited the last few days. I reached out today and said:

Me: Thank you for the papers. It was very heavy subject matter, so I wanted to make sure I took time to fully read and understand them. What did you intend to have me get from them?

{Several hours later)

W: I just went home and took a nap and then felt like giving them to you.

(I waited an hour)

Me: Oh, I see. Well, I think I am only just beginning to see the Hell you lived with. Thank you again for helping me to understand. If you ever want to talk about them, I am willing to listen.


(An hour later again)

W: I want to move on.






So there you have it, that gives at least some context. I will wait until tomorrow morning to respond, so that I can sleep on it. I really would appreciate any feedback.