@Davide you're so right... it just feels really sore right now... I know that what you're saying is right and true but boy is it hard to compute and process... what's wrong with my h... why is he throwing in the towel on a 24 year long R.... I feel like screaming... this is so wrong...Iguess in the spirit of disclosure and getting help I need to say I'm concerned about my bad habits... been having an extra drink or 2 just to numb the pain and get me from obsessing about him... I don't like what I'm becoming... drinking more, not exercising, eating more... gaining weight... on a downward spiral... no wonder my h wants to run in the opposite direction... sorry for venting Week 2 of our separation and I'm feeling really flat