The point is, O, that if you keep making facts and statements about things you don't have control over (like their A or OM being around S), the stuff you do have control over isn't what is focused on.
I know, I lived it. We couldn't properly take care of things with D when I kept having to throw his A in his face or our daughter being around OW. He eventually just blanked me out. Didn't listen to a thing and we did not have good communication when we needed it for our D.
When I quit that stuff, he began to listen to me more and we were able to coparent our D.
I understand needing her to know how you feel about the A and about your S being around OM. But when you throw it in the middle of a conversation on how to deal with things going on with your S, the main reason why you are having that convo doesn't get heard and it turns into something about you and W, not about your S.
See what I am saying?
I do, and i agree, but that being said, WW is a narcissistic wretch, so by that logic, literally ANY conversation we have will inherently be about her, because everything is about her. But yes, i see your point.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
