well..she's the primary breadwinner, but i do contribute financially managing rental properties...if we do D, it will certainly impact her financially in a huge way if everything is divided...it's so frustrating that a person you've loved doesn't seem to want to even ATTEMPT to work on things through counselling or anything...I really have not seen any ownership on her part for problems that have occurred...I feel like it's all pinned on me...over the last several years I have listened to her complaints and criticisms and truly worked on myself and been able to admit mistakes I made and change those things in myself...I don't feel the same from her...
a classic line from her:
"it shouldn't be work"..referring to a relationship...this seems to be such nonsense to me
...she truly wanted her cake...have me as a live-in roommate who manages properties while she sleeps with whoever she wants..
..the other day I finally became so frustrated that every time I attempted any affection like a hug or kiss I felt being pushed away..so i've stopped that.
..should I ask her to sleep in a different room? over the past 10 years she has had 3 A's that i know of...I don't know if she's having one right now and haven't tried to find out..
I've told her how much I want an intimate relationship with her...surely it's obvious the efforts I was making..but you cant force someone..
financially in the long run it would also be better for me to remain in this relationship...we make a good team, and we both wouldn't be where we are without each other...but, that isn't the reason to spend a life with someone
