Gotha so the big difference is to validate vs not validating if they are having an A
LH thanks for your help I am reading up on your thread now too

M 40 W 34
Together 7 Married 2
No Kids
BD 1/18 need space
Moved out 2/18
ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18
W filed for D 6/18
D final 10/18