A familiar story with questions. V

[RR17]

Gordie, thanks for your concern.

Mothers Day, W expressed that she wanted to go to breakfast and we did. I stayed gone most of the day and I cooked dinner, W was happy and no drama.

This whole GAL thing has given me a good reason to take stock and tweak some things I had let stray. All good things in the large picture.

Where the ongoing struggle for me is the conflicting messages. As I have said, W shows more consideration and respect than I have seen in a decade. Once in a while, she will do something that seems to disregard my interest. Like plans to retrieve my D18 from school without discussing or input. And I have confronted her on these things in as constructive approach as possible, and W has listened without defense. Not to over analyze but there is a cognitive detachment there, like she just never thought how I might be interested or be involved in bringing my child home 800 miles away.

I sense some detachment from the marriage, yet I see the respect and a seeming desire to spend time and do things with me. D15 was gone to my sister's until Sunday night and we shopped and grilled and even had sex. No she did seem withdrawn during sex but not totally absent and she didn't seem to be doing it against her will.

Last I've heard her plans haven't changed, but I haven't seen any signs of execution. In fact, financially it seems unlikely at the moment.
Perhaps she is just keeping the peace until she exits?
W is not a phony person and especially lately seems to be committed to being true to herself.

Yes, I work at keeping expectations at zero. An ongoing battle.

Like my mom used to say. "You worry about you"

Thanks again for your concern.