Do not try to do stuff just to get a reaction out of her. You have to face the fact that your M is over. You might form a different relationship with your W somewhere down the line, but for the time being, that's it.
I know it's hard to get it. IT's damned hard. But until you detach, you will not progress. I know this site is called divorce busting, but the best thing you can hope for is to save yourself. Which is paramount, really. You cannot advance yourself if you do not save yourself first.
