I did respond to her that I dont owe her anything when she tried guilting me into helping her. When she started complaining about getting too little sleep, I responded with a simple "thats not my problem".
M 17 years 3 kids EA start 2010 ILYBNILWY 1/2014 PA 1/2016 Bomb drop 2/2016 Renig on Bomb drop 4/2016 Living as roommates, EA continues
Do not try to do stuff just to get a reaction out of her. You have to face the fact that your M is over. You might form a different relationship with your W somewhere down the line, but for the time being, that's it.
I know it's hard to get it. IT's damned hard. But until you detach, you will not progress. I know this site is called divorce busting, but the best thing you can hope for is to save yourself. Which is paramount, really. You cannot advance yourself if you do not save yourself first.