Is this really happening?

[Davide]

I think that any demands you place on your husband right now, in the throes of a MLC, are just going to push him further away. He just isn't ready to hear them. As far as I understand it, DBing is all about not giving ultimata or even engaging in talk about the relationship until the wayward spouse is ready for it.

I certainly want all of those same things from my wife. But I know that she can't give them to me right now. It is my choice to wait, for now, and give her space to see if she can come back. What she is giving me is the time to repair myself, my own self-esteem, to reconnect with family and friends, and to rediscover my identity outside of the relationship. If, at the end of the day I can't wait any more, I will communicate that to her.

Patience is so so hard right now, but I think that's what most of us need.