Hi All so h is away and our trial separation has begun. I just can't belive that this is happening to me. But as it's happening I've thinking about what our C asked me about what I want for our R. At the time I couldn't answer her....all I could think of was I don't want to go through the pain of separation and divorce. Now that I'm here anyway - I think back to that question and can honestly only answer it now. This period while things are in flux have helped me to find my voice. I now know what I want for me and how I want our M to look. It's my life too.... it's not about tip toeing around the mood/depression that my husband has and always trying to placate and keep the peace. I need a friend, companion, partner, playmate, confidante, an engaged committed fully present h - who shows care, consideration, puts time and effort in to making this M work. I think that's the bedrock for any M?? Your thoughts am I asking for too much too soon. Should I continue to ride the MLC wave and see where it lands. Should I state what I want or give him time and space to 'find himself....' I'm so over that now....
