part of me wants to just lay into her...but that will get me nowhere in life.
Selfish does not begin to describe her. She has no filter... She wants what she wants and doesn't give a cr@p about what you want... Don't let her tell you what she wants to share... All of that is for her. To make herself feel better... I would rather you lay into her than give in and let her share her feelings... But only if you say your peace and walk away/hang up... That might be too difficult for you...