Hi Steve, Well I'm not so sure of that buddy...part of me can see her asking about it and another part of me sees her not. So as always only time will tell. Glad you guys think I handled last night pretty well. I feel disappointed for some reason today yet I can't put my finger on exactly why I do. Nothing went especially wrong or anything so I don't know why I feel this way. Maybe just expecting too much too soon.After all if someone told me 6 months ago that she would be so agressive in initiating these seemingly pretty regular meetups I would never have believed it.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Yes V I like that plan. I haven't heard from her about the concert. I was thinking of texting her and asking again but perhaps I should just ask someone else to go with me at this point. It's less than a week away. I just don't think contacting her is a good idea. Maybe you guys think otherwise?
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I agree. You put the offer out and left the ball in her court. If you wait any longer you'll look to anxious. Just ask someone else. It will look good if she calls two days before and you got someone else to go. Make it a hot chick and post pictures of you two at the concert together on evil Facebook.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I think you should stick to the original plan and ask someone else at this point... If you offer again, and she says yes with reluctance, she may cancel on you at the last minute... That would be no bueno...
Okay that sounds like great advice guys. So here's my plan. I am giving her 24 hours from now to contact me on her own about it. If I don't hear from her by this time tomorrow my friend said she'd absolutely love to go with me. WAW knows who she is (although not personally) and she knows that before I got with Mary a couple years ago that this friend, whom we'll name Sue, and I messed around and hung out a lot....friends with benefits kind of thing. So Sue will likely be with me and yes, since it's painfully obvious that WAW has spies on my FB page...I'm sure a pic or two from the show with Sue will give her pause. So that's the plan. Sound good?
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Oh and yes Steve, Sue is very, very attractive my friend!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Yes Steve, I just have to be extra careful to be very subtle. Otherwise these things can backfire and be very transparent to her. Maybe like a dozen random concert pics of the merch booths, other fans, the stage, the performances, etc with judt one pic stuck in the middle of all the other random concert pics of Sue and I. Nothing overt. Plus WAW aside, I am pretty psyched for show! I think WAW knows she will remember back to the last time we saw our band together back in August of 2014...just months after our split and about a month before she was moving away to Florida. I'm sure that's documented way back in this thread. The quick recap of that concert in 2014 is for that day we were a couple again...holding hands, hugging, etc during the show. She said something in reference to moving away soon at that show. She said something to me like "you don't make this easy." At the end of that night when I dropped her off we kissed for a minute or so and said good night. As I remember things went South again after that but I can't remember the exact details...but again I'm sure this story is told right after it happened way back in this thread from late summer 2014. I'm quite sure I probably was obsessing about it here.
The point of that concert story is just to steess the significance and lengthy history of seeing our band together...it had/has emotional meaning to her. This is why she outright admitted the other night that she never could bring herself to go see them in Florida...her exact words were "I just wasn't ready to do that." It was then that I asked her to this concert coming up. So there's some history as to why this is especially a "big deal" and not just some concert.
Anyway, I have a feeling it's going to be interesting over the next few days
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I think it would be more subtle if you posted a few concert pics without including this other woman at all. Let her be curious about who you went with and then downplay it if it comes up. I'm sure she'll figure it out, but it won't be because you left a trail of bread crumbs. That would be my vote.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
