Oh she was certainly referring to the fact that i mentioned "when hes with you and OM"
Typical defensive response to the fact that i called her out on something she knows is wrong. I just dont get why she continues to deny, deny, deny when we are all well aware of the situation.
She has denied the fact that S3 slept in OM's bed, has spent time around him (like a crap load). She was still pretending they were just friends in Jan, i imagine if i were to ask (im not going to) that she would still say the same.
My son tells me about going to OM's house (he lives with his parents) all the time, and about all the activities they take him to do, monster trucks, mountains, the things he bought S3.
I read this, and this was the type of exchange my ex and I would have had 10 years ago when he first BD'd and I found out there was OW.
You are being P/A about OM, wanting her to fess us and "admit" things. She wasn't denying her affair. She was simply denying that he takes part in the bedtime routine.
So why do you want her to tell you how involved she is with OM? Why are you trying to get it out of her so hard? You inserted it into the conversation when that wasn't what your convo was about.
I did what you are doing. My daughter was 6 months old. I get it.
If I go back and change anything, it would be giving OW so much of my energy. I should have proceeded like she was a non-entity. Like she was nothing. You can't change OM's involvement (trust me, I tried to change OW involvement) but they will do what they do.
Your best course of action is to stop being so passive aggressive in your interaction and stick to exactly what the topic of the conversation is without trying to throw stuff in there. because really, she doesn't give a poop about what you know about OM, she really is rolling her eyes, and the focus doesn't remain where it needs to be, and that is your S.
