My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance

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Thanks for the comments. The bed is a respect thing, not something to get a reaction. Truly, if she wants out of the MR, she'll get that sooner or later. But I don't think I should be sleeping in the guest bed anymore, now that I know she is having an EA with the OM still.

I have been enjoying my time on the weekends at the lake, and I sleep alone most nights. I can do this either way. I prefer to be in bed with my W, but that will be up to her. My mental states has improved due to you guys, so I thank you. I still have a ways to go.

We have so many complicated issues right now anyways with our house and business. I am becoming less available to her but we do need communication bc we need permanent financing on our spec home loan. We need a mower to cut the grass (I told her about this a month ago), we need to get our/her vehicle looked at for an insurance claim. We need to rebuild a retaining wall and paint a drywall repair on the spec house we're living in. This stuff is piling up and hopefully she is venting this to the OM, who won't be able to help her. The spec home is for sale, but we are out of time on the construction loan and need to refi. Going to be hard to do during a D.




Well, maybe we'll get a response from sandi, I'll remain optimistic there! I wonder if I should be validatin or not. We'll discuss I further I guess...

She is questioning where I'm at and who I'm with. How do I respond, but vaguely?

And Steve, she hasn't talked to her parents except for a couple of times since BD. We saw them 1-3 days a week before BD. She has not returned a lot of their calls either. That's why I say it was good that she had some contact with her folks. I bet her mom's heart skipped a beat when she saw WW calling.