Thanks Steve, I appreciate your thoughts. I am done with the passive agGres I've crap, and wanting to regain some respect. That's why I'm planning on going back to our marital bed, especially since she is involved with the OM. I do or don't validate her feelings? Or just state my position that it is our bed and I'm going to sleep there to return to my normal life and comfy bed?
I wish sandi would weigh in here. Personally, I think you should validate.
"Why do you have to sleep in the bed!?! That isn't fair, you gladly left it when I asked you to before!"
"I understand your being upset about this, but it was the wrong decision at the time. I am not the one that wanted to split up, therefore I shouldn't be the one to leave the bed."
You validated, but stated your intention. But others might have better things to say.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
