Obviously you need to work out a parenting plan but I would just try to get by until you have your hearing. Remember only contact unless absolutely critical!
I remember going to my EW's apartment early on and attempting to walk into her bedroom and being essentially told to stay out of her room. At one of our kid's games I was joking around and touched her knee and she told me not to again. Really? Coming from someone that I have been with for 17 years and is the mother of my children?
I can stress to you enough on how wound tight they are. Like a CAT 5 hurricane and they are just spinning out of control. Every time you attempt to talk to them, reason with them, make a connection with them, bring up R talk, etc. you are just another town in their path and they will destroy you.
Your best bet is to seek shelter and stay out of the path. Just step aside.
