Advice on my Scenario Pt. 6 - Becoming a Warrior

[OrangeK]

^^^^^^^^^^^mtb nailed it

OK, this came across as passive-aggressive on your part. You need to keep it business-like. No hidden agendas. State the facts:

Text: Hi, S3 needs some stability to hopefully smooth out the issues he is having at daycare. I'd like to at some point discuss mutual bedtime routines and the like when you feel comfortable discussing.

What you said, or what she likely heard was: Hey, we need to talk about mutual bedtimes for S3 since you are now shacking up and having an affair with OM.

Then you followed up with: Hey, your sex-buddy was introduced way too early in S3's life and you are a rotten mother for doing that!

OK, just a suggestion, you can do whatever you want obviously, but next time you might want to get input before sending the text, like you did before. Just a thought

Thanks Steve. I will ask next time before i send to her. Hopefully it will be a long while. I can definitely see what you mean here.