Sandi, I think it was Steve85 who has given the 1 year timeline in his situation.
and YES, I slipped again on Sunday. I have pretty much quit drinking. I have never had an issue, but over the last few years with my wife on so many medications (most that she couldn't mix with alcohol) so we just never did it. When I did on those rare occasions, it was just a few social drinks anyway. But Sunday did have free champagne, my W had a couple and so did I. I believe this did let down my ability to keep myself from reacting and biting my tongue, or as was said "good luck with that" would have been a great one! For someone who can't stay up past 10pm. Cant drink, can't dance, can't work, and has her chronic pain issues, I am VERY unsure what a college age man's interest (beyond the obvious!) would be.
Last evening was quiet.
As far as my GAL part, I am working out much more. Using that time both in the morning (This morning was up at 430 and on the treadmill for 90 minutes prior to getting the kids up and their lunches ready then getting ready for work. In the evening I have kind of done the same thing. Headed out for a 3-5 mile walk/run depending on the day.
On the weekends I take the kids out somewhere and usually the kids and I will do lunch or dinner one of those days out. We are WAY strapped on $$$ right now so I don't feel like getting in the argument or comments on "we have no money how can you go out and spend money" issues.
So I am reading a lot. Working out a lot. And spending as much time with my kids as I can. I believe summer will open up some more possibilities for myself and the kids to do more things. I don't know how my W is going to like the kids being home all day though! Who knows!
Again, I appreciate all of you and your input. You have no idea how much I get from this board and the insight all of you provide. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
M51 W44 T21 M18 D14 S11 BD date 9/17 W filed 02/18 W withdrew petition following week In house separation 03/18 In Limbo and DB'ing since 03/18 W is moving out by mid Nov 2018 A drawing up paperwork 11/18