Affair, no feelings...is there hope? IV

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A few months ago, my W told me she wanted to R. I broke one of Sandi's rules and I made the mistake of believing something she said. She said all the right things, but her actions were not aligning with what she was saying. I remember telling her when she came back that I needed 3 things from her to make this work. Honesty, Respect, and Loyalty. Over the next few weeks, I realized I was not getting any of these from her. Of course she said all the right things to get me to believe I was getting them, but her actions proved otherwise. Less than a month later, it was time for her to go again...

Thanks for this, mtb. You posted even before my last post where I talked about struggling with believing her. I KNOW all the rules, I am trying so hard not to believe anything. But it's hard to convince that deep down part of you. I'm working on it. Your story really helps. You are right ultimately it's the actions that will show the truth...I guess I will be patient and guarded and see what happens. I am doing my best to objective (detached) and prepared for anything.